Here are some examples of sample vows if you prefer not to write your own:
Groom, repeat after me:
I Groom take you Bride to be my wife /
I promise above all else to live in truth with you/
and to communicate fully and fearlessly/
I give you my hand and my heart /
as a sanctuary of warmth and peace/
and pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor
as I join my life to yours.
Bride, repeat after me:
I Bride take you Groom to be my husband/
I promise above all else to live in truth with you/
and to communicate fully and fearlessly/
I give you my hand and my heart /
as a sanctuary of warmth and peace/
and pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor
as I join my life to yours.
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I, [Groom's name], take you [Bride's name], to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love.
I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust you and honor you
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully
Through the best and the worst,
Through the difficult and the easy.
What may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold
So I give you my life to keep
I, [Bride's name], take you [Groom's name], to be my husband, my partner in life and my one true love.
I will cherish our friendship and love you today,
tomorrow, and forever
I will trust you and honor you
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully
Through the best and the worst,
Through the difficult and the easy.
What may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold
So I give you my life to keep
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(Name), I take you to be my lawfully wedding (husband/wife).
Before these witnesses I vow to love you and care for you
as long as we both shall live.
I take you, with all your faults and your strengths,
as I offer myself to you with my faults and my strengths.
I will help you when you need help,
and will turn to you when I need help.
I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.
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Some couples like to add special options to their ceremony. These might include vows to children, a unity candle, a hand-holding ceremony, or a rose ceremony. Some examples of these are below.
Optional Vows to Children
Not only do I promise to be a good husband/wife to you,
but I also give my promise to be a patient, loving father/mother to
__________ and________, caring for them and providing for them as my
own. I promise to be their strength and their emotional support, loving
them with all my heart from this day forward.
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As the two of us are joined on this day, we become part
of each other: your feelings become my feelings; your sorrows become my
sorrows; your joys become my joys; your cares become my cares, and your
child/children become(s) my child/children. I promise to be a true and
faithful husband/wife and father/mother, always there to comfort you,
rejoice with you and endure all the complexities of life that we will
face together as a family over the years to come. My love for you and
this/these child/children is pure and unshakable, and I hereby commit
myself to both/all of you from this day forward.
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I have promised to love you and to be your
husband/wife, but I would like to add another vow, a promise to love
__________________ as my own child, to provide for him/her and to be a
faithful father/mother, always concerned for his/her welfare and
his/her needs.
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_______________, I love your Mommy/Daddy very, very
much, and today I have taken her/him as my wife/husband. But you know
that I love you dearly as well. I want to be as a father/mother to you,
and I invite you into my heart. We will have happy times together, you
and your Mommy/Daddy and I. And with this (ring or other token) I
pledge to you my love.
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Celebrant (to groom/bride —- referring to
child): And do you, _______________ take________________ as your own,
promising to love her/him and care for her/him, providing for her/him
needs, material and spiritual?
Groom: I do.
Celebrant (to child): And do you, __________ take _______________ to be your loving father/mother from this day forward?
Child: I do.
Groom/Bride (to child): ________________, I give you this (ring or
other token) as a symbol of the loving promise I have made to you this
day.